Domestic Violence During the Holidays

Domestic Violence

The risk of domestic violence often increases during the holiday season. Reports to law enforcement typically rise by nearly 20% during the month of December. Factors such as financial strain, heightened expectations, emotional and psychological tension, increased alcohol or substance use, and limited access to support and services can all contribute to a greater risk of violence within the home.

During this time, victims may feel pressured to present a picture-perfect relationship or household in front of friends and family, leading them to minimize the abuse or delay reporting. Individuals may also be home more often due to holiday breaks or time off from work or school, increasing opportunities for violence. Understanding the heightened risks victims face during this season can help us to better support their safety.

Safety Planning

Having a safety plan can empower victims, help them prioritize their well-being, and allow them to navigate potential risks more effectively during the holidays.

1. Recognize the warning signs Many victims can sense when their abuser is beginning to escalate. Pay attention to arguments, changes in mood, or signs that your partner has been drinking or using substances. The holidays can be stressful, and although there is never an excuse for abuse, stress can often contribute to increased violence during this time.

2. Have a list of emergency contacts If you are traveling away from home, it is helpful to research local emergency numbers and resources. If possible, identify a trusted family member in the place you are visiting and keep in touch with someone back home throughout your trip. Keep your phone charged and accessible and consider sharing your location with a trusted person if your phone allows it.

3. Create a code word or phrase Establish a code word or phrase you can give to a trusted friend or family member to signal that you need immediate help. Choose something that indicates the severity of the situation without drawing attention from the abusive person. When creating this code, communicate exactly what you want the other person to do call you, come to your location, or contact emergency services.

4. Pack an emergency bag Prepare a discreet, easy-to-hide emergency bag. Ideally, it should include copies of important documents, identification, several days’ worth of medication, a backup phone charger, an emergency 911-capable cellphone, and a small amount of cash. You may also include non-perishable food, water, and any supplies needed for children or pets. Keep this bag in a safe place at home or with you while traveling.

5. Have a plan for where to go Knowing where you will go in an emergency can help you act quickly. Options may include staying with a friend or family member, going to an emergency shelter, or checking into a hotel. Consider how you would get there using your vehicle, having someone pick you up, using public transportation, or accessing emergency services.

Supporting Survivors

Those supporting survivors during the holiday season or who are worried about someone in an abusive relationship can help create a safe and supportive environment. Offer care, listen without judgment, and let the individual know help is available if they are ready. Supportive friends and family can help survivors feel less isolated and more empowered to seek help when they need it.